Dudes

The longer I’m alive, the more I believe that almost all of society’s problems stem from men not being men. I’m not the first to observe this but I feel like it’s not talked about nearly enough (e.g. Brad Pitt’s rant in Fight Club). Having worked with people and particularly students for over 14 years now, I estimate that my field of work would become as obsolete as a 386 computer with a turbo button if dads would be dads. I’m no psychologist, barely a theologian, more of a shade tree philosopher, but it seems like everybody’s got some kind of daddy issues.

Dudes are pissed b/c he wasn’t there and when he was, he was either too busy or an a-hole. So, they become anger boys or withdraw into themselves (many times becoming effeminate), depending on their personality. Chicks feel the same way, wanting dad’s attention, affection and love. When they don’t get it, they find some boy toy and give themselves to him, craving a watchful eye and physical contact. He’s happy to give it (or get it, if you know what I mean) and mutual using and codependency ensues. This is only the beginning of the downward spiral...

Of course, dad’s got his own daddy issues but that is another subject for another time (generational compounding dysfunction.) It’s like compounding credit card debt that people only pay the minimum on. It just keeps getting bigger and worse all the while people think they’re getting by...

Bottom line: Men need to be men. Men are called to represent God to their families and society. When that doesn’t happen it all goes to an exponentially growing pile of crap, and it stinks, bad! Time to step up dudes. Reject passivity, Accept responsibility, Lead Courageously, Expect God’s greater reward.